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握手最有力的女人

带着几代经验丰富的专业人士传下来的建议,我开始完善企业界有史以来最坚定的握手方式。

从第一天起,我的脑海里就嗡嗡作响,充满了来自妈妈、爸爸和哥哥的智慧:"要用力,但不要太用力",就好像我在掌握握剑的技巧一样。于是,我像其他勤奋的人一样,偷偷地练习,下定决心握住门把手。

想象一下你第一天成为实习生的情景:你能感觉到新百褶裤的清爽,紧张的蝴蝶在你的胃里翩翩起舞,听到空调的嗡嗡声,还有你认为很酷的新高跟鞋发出的令人尴尬的响亮脚步声。但是,在所有其他实习生的想法中,我却在心里默念着:"坚定、自信、平易近人"。

晨会和新朋友成了我的试验场。我手心冒汗,心跳加速,像骑士一样严肃地对待每一只伸出的手。我仿佛是手掌按压的行家,我甚至发现自己有幸成为铟公司实习生后,对所有的握手都进行了心理评级。肯德拉?我握得比较紧。马特?我也赢了他。但汤姆呢?我输给他了我来抓你了 汤姆

此时,我的握手已经超越了手机追踪的步数。当我离掌握握手的艺术越来越近时,我突然意识到,握手本身并不重要。

我有很晚才意识到这一点的习惯,比如有一次我意识到 "低脂 "冰淇淋并不意味着你可以毫无愧疚地吃掉整桶冰淇淋--它只是意味着你现在正拿着勺子面临生存危机。或者,当我发现平行停车并不是一项观赏运动时,尤其是当你为人行道上的每个人提供无意的娱乐时。又或者,我发现买一个高级搅拌机并不能让我神奇地变成一个冰沙鉴赏家--它只是意味着我现在有了一个非常昂贵的纸盒子,却拥有令人印象深刻的搅拌功能。

不过,我们还是回到握手的话题吧。

随着握手技巧的提高,我发现成功不在于握手,而在于握手后的勇气:真诚的微笑和见到新朋友时热情的眼神。有了这种认识,我知道自己终于破解了办公室礼仪的密码。

My parents brought me up to be an independent, curious, and opinionated woman. This opinionated woman took a nineteen-hour flight, miles away from home, to come to Boston in 2021 with three suitcases and a dream that transcended textbooks and lecture halls. From a nervous freshman at Boston University to a nervous intern at Indium Corporation today, I reflect on my journey and conclude that life has always been about the meaningful relationships that I build and contribute to along the way. It was never about crushing knuckles or measuring strength. No matter where I go, it is about the impacts and connections I leave behind.

I have seen people who have worked hard for 10, 20, 30 years at Indium Corporation and still take on every opportunity possible to learn and grow–which never fails to amaze me. Discipline is not just a requirement but a tool for personal growth and professional success. My late-night parties have turned into self-growth evenings filled with reading, running a mile every day, and attempting my hand at the electric guitar. There is, indeed, a quiet satisfaction in prioritizing self-improvement and long-term goals over immediate gratification.

有很多名人名言谈到握手如何为你打开世界,以及你必须如何不辜负握手。但如前所述,我很想在这件事上留下自己的影响。所以,你好,我是 Jinanshi,让我的故事成为一个警示,但也是一个滑稽的提醒:虽然坚定的握手可能会打开大门,但真正决定你人生旅程的永远是真诚和欢笑。我现在的重点是放松对握手至上的控制,转而培养人际关系,包括与我自己的关系。